Spirituality Demands Unlearning

“The process of spritual attainment is through unlearning.”

We all are born remarkably innocent but learned enough to suck our part out when we are hungry, intelligent enough to cry it out what we cannot stand and we remain such and so & attain more curiosity and confidence over the time that leads to knowledge, courage and bravery.

If even a single percent of above statement(s) you feel is false; despite of the false stories you keep telling yourself about you and your life, no matter what life has thrown at you, no matter what you’ve went through or what you’ve faced, no matter the what the opinions and beliefs, no matter how long you’ve been stuck on one thing in life, stopped in working out what you should be doing in the world; understand that you’re still atleast same as you arrived in this world, which you will come to realize soon.

Confidence, Trust, Ability, Bravery, Achievements, Intelligence, Knowledge may seem strange to you at some point in life, that is because you have learned to learn, adapt, and never thought about unlearning something. Because you have learned to trust everyone else but yourself, every idea, thought, project you think about, the first thing you do is think about your failures first, your second options and your way out in case of failures.You do not start working on that project, idea, thought, rather you make yourself busy in something very usual that you have been doing comfortably since very long, but this very idea that you do not adapt or try keeps visiting you and it haunts you for the remainder of your life.

Unlearning is art of letting go, where as learning is not a skill, or an art that we acquire over time, its something natural, we learn from everything around us, just like you learned a lot of things when your brain didn’t know how to reason at all. Learning takes no guts; In fact, everything around us tries head and toe to fixate us with something, some knowledge, make us learned about itself; however unlearning is an orphan, adapted by few, which starts from within, with our efforts and with your struggle to undo something.

As kids, we have passions, we have hobbies that we live for, we dance and sing, we play music and games, we collect and make things. We are made to unlearn these and we are put into someone else’s shoes of different size, we can’t walk in them for a while, we limp, we either find out a way to walk in them or we wait until we grow our feet. This is how our dreams die and we forget about ourselves, and we become someone else that we try to get rid of for the rest of our lives.

Sufi Hazrat Inayat Khan quotes, “The process of spritual attainment is through unlearning.” He further explains that belief is an essential part of religion, but it is not religion, rather a stepping stone which instead of climbing, people hold firm to it and do not progress, and this scenario looks like a river which stops flowing.

Unlearning the learned ideas is waging a war with your own ideas which is only possible and one dares only to do it when (s)he is wiser enough. One must dare to contradict one’s own ideas and beliefs to unlearn, and be empty.

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Scarification

I celebrate life four times a year, and every time I do, I sacrifice. It’s more like a scarification of a bakery product rather than an animal, I will sacrifice a cake today and hope for better year ahead.

The four sacrifices in a year, one for when I was born, second for when my wife came into being, third when she and I chose each other to bond with, which is today, fourth when she bore me this beautiful kid.

Today marks the 4th year of our togetherness, and life is still just not the piece of cake that one should expect. It’s never been about sacrifices, money or how long we live it.

She remains silent usually one day before and on the day of her birthday and of our anniversary, but I know this pattern and her surprise is not a surprise anymore although me bringing cake out of nowhere does surprise her. She expects me to forget it every time but her pattern is the alarm.

For each reason we make this sacrifice every year, we pray and expect next year to be better, but every time we cut a cake, we realize, life is not a piece of cake and its beyond the ideas of right and wrong. We cut our cake at a place that lies beyond the right and wrong, the place beyond the past and the future, and the place that is beyond happiness and sadness……. It’s some place else…. not this world..